Mr Perfect?

Maybe I'm the only wife that does this. . .

I am frustrated at Husband about something.
I fume just a little bit deep inside the ugly corners of my heart.
Then suddenly before I know it, I am comparing my very own precious Husband to a silly concoction in my head of Mr Perfect.

The mental conversation goes something like this.

If he was really on top of things, he wouldn't have let that light bill become past due.

If he really wanted to take care of me, he would have made sure the gas tank was full.

If he really wanted to be a leader, he would have asked me what I thought of Sunday's sermon.

If he really thought about me, he would have planned months in advance for my birthday.

If he really loved me, he would make sure I was perfectly happy and taken care of 24 / 7 / 365.

I'm kind of embarrassed to admit all things thoughts I've sadly thought over the last year of being married. Embarrassed because of how much selfishness it reveals in my heart.  Embarrassed because it shows how much I can allow a nit-picking-spirit to take over.  Still I choose to share. . . because maybe you have been here too?!

The last two days, I've been struggling inside with this very thing.   Yet as I was sitting on my bus this morning, I felt God convicting me.

Nicole.  Are you willing to trade the joy in your marriage for a silly desire for Adam to become something that doesn't even exist?!  Are you willing to jeopardize your relationship because you cannot accept the flaws in the person I gave you!?  Are you not willing to except these struggles as my way of preparing and changing your heart?!  And because everyone has flaws, which of his would you like to trade for a different one?!

Sooo yeeeaaah. . .
. . . .

God - 1, Nicole - 0

Tonight you will find me spending time with Husband, continuing to work on our relationship
 and thanking God that He is still working on me.

Happy Tuesday, lovelies.


  1. Love your blog girl, it is so down to earth and encouraging. And you are not the only one to struggle with this, seven years of being married and I still do.

  2. Thanks for your transparency... I can relate! It's kinda ugly when we realize how selfish we can become. So thankful for the gift of marriage!

  3. I totally agree and identify with this! Amen and thanks for the good reminder! =)
    Alesha <3

  4. i think i need to read this post. everyday.

  5. So glad God dealt kindly with you :) It is so much, in our attitudes and expectations, where the battles are fought. Go enjoy your wonderfully-not-perfect hubs :)

  6. I needed to hear this. i do this ALL of the time. thank you for being honest and letting us into your heart!

  7. TOTALLY understand what you are talkin about girl! So nice to hear someone else does this too =S
    Praise God for revealing this pattern to you =)
    Much Love,


  8. I do this all the time!! For me the best solution for this has been to serve him. When he is not meeting my expectations it is usually because I am being selfish. But when I serve him it makes me see him in the best light possible, how God would want me to see him.

  9. You have no idea how much I needed to read this tonight. Thank you, friend.

  10. Is that playground in Corallville IA? I love that equipment and keep trying to talk our city into buying it for our parks here. It's so neat

  11. Awww.. that's true, we shouldn't really let the little things get to us or we'll miss the little things we should appreciate :)

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  12. beautiful post, i seriously love your blog- i dont comment enougH!

  13. I especially love what you said here "And because everyone has flaws, which of his would you like to trade for a different one?!" I tell myself that too when I get upset with my dear hubby. Beautiful pictures. I love your hair in the last one! That is SCARY that your husband is standing so high up on that structure!

  14. Thanks for your honesty - I think many wives, like myself, can relate with this struggle! I get all bent out of shape over something (usually something silly), but when I step back and actually look at the situation, I realize that my husband is much more amazing than I give him credit for.

  15. We have all been there, sometimes I am humbled when I think of the flaws that I have that my husband never seems to mention and how often I remind him of his flaws. They are just as imperfect as we are and that's why marriage can become a ver beautiful thing, because two imperfect people can build and create something so much greater and better than themselves individually.

  16. Ah, unfortunately this happens to the best of us. And is something that we all need to work on. Luckily God (and hopefully our significant others) realize that we are imperfect, and are willing to let us work on our mistakes :)


  17. I've been there too, you're definitely not alone. It's always a work in progress! Luckily God can humble our hearts enough to allow us to realize it and work on it!

  18. Oh my gosh I struggle with this all the time! You are so right - when those criticisms are reeling around in my mind I'm expecting him to be perfect when he's definitely not. And then of course giving myself TONS of grace for the things I do wrong. It's so humbling when I finally realize this. Thanks for sharing!

  19. This is so me. I have to constantly remind myself of TRUTH. I am flawed as well :] Thank you for this post! You are not alone!
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