Three Words

Thanks so much for being so encouraging after yesterdays posts.  You girls are literally give me hugs everyday through your emails, your comments and your encouraging words.  I am so grateful for that.

Husband and I had an awesome night last night talking through a lot of stuff.  I literally feel like if I never learn another thing in our marriage, I hope I remember the lesson to never stop talking, never stop communicating and never stop pursuing our relationship.  It can truly be the life or death to a marriage.

So in honor of my sweet, loving boy, I wanted to share one of my favorite stories from before we were Mr and Mrs.

It was a hot summer afternoon in Kunming, China.
The volunteers were resting their tired bodies from multiple days of chasing their orphan buddies at camp.
The kids were taking naps in their cool hotel rooms. . . supposedly.

Adam had asked me earlier in the day if I wanted to take a walk with him.  Of course I wouldn't pass up a chance to connect with my boy between the busyness of a day of chinese summer camp.

We met up and headed out of the hotel compound towards a secret area he had found earlier that week.
As we passed the concrete buildings, a lush green area seemed to draw us in.  There were small ponds with massive floating lilly pads.  The transplanted trees were propped up by thick, round sticks.  And one rickety stick bridge was our only way to reach the large pagoda in the center.

We stood in the pagoda wrapped tightly in each others arms, admiring the stretching green expanse that lead to Lake Dianchi -- or the green lake as it is so aptly named for the massive overgrowth of algae.

Suddenly out of Adam's pocket came a card.  And as I opened to the card, my heart starting so fast my head was swimming.  Inside were two simple lines.

I love you

To anyone else, this would seem like just another love note, but to me it was special beyond words.  You see, we had been waiting to say those three words to each other.  Not because saying them is wrong.  Rather we wanted to make sure we could save them for the person we would be with forever.  

So for me to think that Adam Neesby chose to give me his first I love you was sacred in it's own great way.  Because truly loving someone and choosing to spend the rest of your lives together is one of the greatest miracles God ever does.  And that is worth celebrating.

{in the love pagoda}

Happy Wednesday, lovelies!


  1. Awww! That's SO sweet! :)

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  2. awhhh!! you two were MADE for each other!!


  3. Beautiful. You guys have a fairytale, and I love reading all these little stories! I agree with Elisha... you were made for each other :)

  4. What a sweet story!

  5. This is so so so sweet! I hope you still have the note and that it's saved somewhere special :) So glad you guys are going back to China together this year!


  6. Mmmm :)
    For us it was, "I have something to tell you. ::heart starts going nuts:: I love you." and that was the moment before THE question. :)
    But I do remember that moment a month or two beforehand, sitting across from each other in a booth at a diner when he said, "It's gonna be a really good life." BOOSH! I sat in a hazy grin for, well, a long time. :)

  7. You couldn't more right about communication in marriage. One of our favorite things to do is stay up late and chat and plan. It keeps us connected, among other good things as well. Marriage is a roller coaster of ups and downs and you start reading how the other person is feeling without him ever having to say a word, but that's when you open up and ask and talk. And sometimes, words aren't necessary. Like when I'm a little irritated, I've learned to keep my mouth shut because it's usually not a big deal an hour or two later. He's not perfect and neither am I! At least that's how our marriage generally works around here! You and Adam obviously have something special.

    I loooove this story! It reminds of the butterflies and heart palpitations I got more than 5 years ago!