How To Love

Over the last five weeks, I have held my sweet boy and questioned myself a thousand times if I really know how to love him best.

I know how to get up and three in the morning and fill his little belly.  I know how to hang out with him in the morning when we just talk and smile like only moms and tiny sons can.  I know how to help him with his belly aches.  I know how to change him into his seventh clean outfit of the day.  dang spit-up 

But what about a deeper, more sacrificial love?!

A love that let's Emmett grow and be the best that God would have him be.
A love that doesn't smoother and constrain.
A love that allows boys to be boys, to live fully this one wild and precious life.
A love that doesn't make our children perfect little accessories to build my good image.
A love that gives freedom for personal mistakes without rejection or fear.

Most of all a love that recognizes that Emmett really isn't ours.  He's just one heck of a super cute kid that we get to share in the adventure of life.  This is the love I will be asking God to fill me with for the next whole lot of years.


  1. I just had my second little girl last week, and I have been thinking of this too...praying that God would rid of my desires for my girls and replace them with the desires that He stirs up in their hearts to live their lives for Him. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Love this post! Reminds me of Kahlil Gibran's poem On Children -

    Your children are not your children.
    They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
    They come through you but not from you,
    And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

    You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
    For they have their own thoughts.
    You may house their bodies but not their souls,
    For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
    which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
    You may strive to be like them,
    but seek not to make them like you.
    For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

    You are the bows from which your children
    as living arrows are sent forth.
    The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
    and He bends you with His might
    that His arrows may go swift and far.
    Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
    For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
    so He loves also the bow that is stable.

  3. He is adorable. And I know he will turn out just fine, you love him with a love that only a mother has.

  4. Girl, that's just about all you can do! I feel like God gave me kids so that if they grow up to be any kind of a decent God-fearing man it will be to give Himself glory because we all know it wasn't me & Lavar!! It's all in His hands anyway! He's a cutie!

  5. That was beautiful. Really. As a new mom myself, I completely understand that plea to God. These precious souls are on loan. We have a great responsibility...but, with love and prayer and more love, we are going to do alright. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  6. this is beautiful and i love his eyes in that first picture!!! so adorable!