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2/12/15

Remembering Our Marriage

There is such a trend right now to really 'carpe diem' the heck out of these days of raising our babies.  We are suppose to cherish each moment. . .  the messes, the diaper changes, the middle of the night feedings, the 147th game of chase around the living room in the dead of winter.  It's a mad dash to truly savor all these little things that are slipping by each day so much faster than we care to admit.

And then it hit me.

What about cherishing these sweet days of being married to my best friend?!
I think that -- albeit unintentionally -- this one has been overlooked.  Between the exhaustingly long days and the constant string of late Sundays to church.  From the extra work shifts and the silly fights over dirty laundry on the floor.  We have gotten so caught up in trying to truly value these moments with little ones that we have forgotten to intentionally cherish our first love.

The first love that made us want to stay up all night talking.  The first love that overlooked those annoying little quirks.  The first love that squeezed onto one side of the restaurant booth so our shoulders would touch through the meal.  The first love that showed you what is really felt like to be unconditionally accepted.

This love, sweet friends.  This is what we can't forget.  Because just like our days of raising our babies are number, so are our days of being married to our best friend.  As much as I hate to admit it, none of us are promised 75 long happy years together.  We only have today.  This moment.  This chance to patiently overlook offenses.  This chance to cuddle up close at night and warm each others cold feet.  This chance to live out a great love that reflects Christ.

So let's not waste it with this all consuming passion for motherhood.
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Thanks, friends! xo


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14 comments:

  1. What a beautiful post. I'm not a mother, but as a wife it's so encouraging!

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  2. Love this, friend. Cherishing our spouse is so, so important!

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  3. and it's so easy to forget sometimes! especially with demanding schedules of little people! xoxo

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  4. thanks dear! i definitely think that general life can take over too! xoxo

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  5. Yes yes yes. We're not in the actual parenting stage yet, but Ben + I talk about it often about how important it is to not get totally caught up in raising kids...marriage is the center of the family, and without a good + solid marriage, your kids have little to fall back on. I'm sure it is a challenge to balance being a good parent and still being super intentional with your spouse, but I believe it's worth all the effort we can put into it. This is a great word!

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  6. that's so great that you guys are already talking about this. marriage -- like any worthwhile relationship takes so much communication and effort. sounds like you guys do a great job of this! xo

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  7. I love this so much! We obviously don't have children yet but when we do I want to be able to remember that my husband is still very much important and he needs to be loved and appreciated

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  8. so incredibly well put! marriage can easily be pushed to the back burner - not only with kids, but with jobs, or just the busy-ness of life in general. we have to be intentional with our marriages :) thanks for the encouragement to do just that!

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  9. life itself can distract us from marriage just as much as having kids! you will be a such a great mama someday!! xo

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  10. it's like someone once said, if we aren't actively working on relationships, we are stagnating. ahh! such a challenge to always strive for intentional moments. thanks for sharing, dear!! xo

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  11. great post, Nicole! You two are a great example of fighting for the beauty in marriage.:) So thankful for parents that have treasured their marriage and are so in love after 25 years together. 10 kids hasn't dimmed their love!

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  12. yes! i love seeing role models like your parents! it takes lots of hard work but it's totally worth it. xo

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  13. You are spot on with this post Nicole! It takes real discipline to keep the focus on marriage and not exclusively on family or little ones. Thanks so much for the reminder and for sharing this. X

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  14. yes! it's so worth it though. thanks also for your sweet words! xo

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